I don’t know what to do with “friends” that disagree with me on moral issues. It’s a bit of a quandary.

There is right and wrong and the two are usually pretty easy to tell. There are, I suppose, gray areas as well – things that don’t fit in right or wrong. However, the moral issues I’m talking about are pretty stark.

For instance, I think it’s wrong to murder people. Now most people I know would agree with that statement I’m thinking.

But what about abortion, I’ll hear, you support that don’t you? Well yes I do. But I have a different definition of life than some people do I guess and think it’s not my body or my embryo so it’s none of my damn business. Do I think this is a gray area… yeah I guess, but it’s fueled by religion and that taints everything really in my opinion.

Murder, taking the life of another human being… that’s black and white. It’s wrong to take another life. This isn’t a “well I’m not sure” or a “but what if”. I believe that taking another life is wrong. Even in self defense I think you could wound pretty significantly without ending their life. It’s not up to us to decide who lives and who dies…

In the case of Kyle Rittenhouse I find that I have many friends who think he did nothing wrong. That it is ok to leave your home, with a gun, travel outside your neighborhood and patrol the streets as a vigilante. He shot three men, killing two of them, but they think he did nothing wrong that he’s “innocent”. I can’t wrap my head around it – I can’t see their point of view. I can’t fathom a world that thinks what he did was ok.

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I’m a fan of vigilantes. I read and love comic books and have since I was a kid. Most superheroes have moral codes that keep them from killing, keep them from doing things that are wrong. Maybe that’s where I’m messed up, I relied on comic book heroes for my morals and reverence for life. Batman says “heroes don’t kill”.

But I do have a very close friend who said “I just don’t know” when I was talking about the Rittenhouse case. I’m hoping that they just aren’t familiar with the case, that there isn’t a gray area in their minds that is letting them think he might have been doing the right thing.

This can’t be the right thing. Killing people can’t be the right thing.

I have friends that I strongly disagree with on political nonsense. They swing way right, I swing in the middle. I’m not a fan of either of the big parties, I’m not a fan of career politicians, geriatric nominees, or suppressing the vote. I think both parties lie enough to the citizens of our country that they should be tried for crimes against our nation. It’s awful. Here, vote for the lesser evil.

And that I guess depends on your definition of evil. Right and wrong again, you know it when you see it.

I think it’s right to provide food stamps for families in need.. this is because I grew up in a family that was needy and those stamps kept me fed sometimes.

I believe that religion has too much say in politics and the rights and responsibilities of the human race.

I think if we’re the land of the free and the home of the brave, we should all have the same rights and responsibilities.

I’m not a fan of the death penalty. Why should they get off so easily? My grandmother had a bumper sticker that read “some people are so opposed to murder, they’ll kill anyone that commits it”

I don’t think we belong in any more wars, we’ve done enough damage to the world and it’s time to come home and fix up our own side of the street.

I believe suppressing votes is happening because a certain party is afraid of the voice of the people.

I believe the people have lost their voice to distractions from social media to fake news… fake news is all of it, it’s all designed to get you to react and less about informing you of what’s going on.

I believe Donald Trump incited a riot, and that people in this riot wanted to overthrow the government based on his urgings.

I worry that I have friends that believe in chem trails and microchips in vaccines.

I worry that I have friends that think the one doctor they found on YouTube the disagrees with all the experts is the guy to believe.

What I want is, sigh, I’m not sure what I want. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what I want. What we need is for people to be able to identify good and bad on the same level again…. if we ever did to begin with. We need there to be repercussions when you do something wrong, those repercussions should be equal to the wrong that was done in some way other than death.

Here’s the thing, I don’t think of myself as a nice guy. But I am. I give rides to people that need rides, I grant my shoulder to those that need one to cry on, I listen when no one else has the time to listen. Am I the one to decide what’s right and what’s wrong? I’m not the best guy for the job. But I believe and was taught that you know. You know down deep what’s right and what’s wrong. You know killing others isn’t right. You know hurting others is wrong. You KNOW these things, without me having to tell you or manipulate you … you just know… I have to believe I’m not the only one who just knows when I’m doing right or when I’m doing wrong.

But what do you do with these friends that “don’t know” or think bad is good… how do you keep them as friends, how do you not argue with them or worry about the world with them thinking the way they think.

You can unfriend them on Facebook I suppose, but what about real life, life outside of “Meta” lol

Do I have to argue with them? no. Do I have to agree with them? no. But can I keep good conscience knowing they have a different definition of right and wrong than I do… it’s like me believing 2 + 2 = 4 and them believing it equals 7. Can I be ok with them thinking it’s what should be four is seven? I don’t think I can.

I have a friend, Robert, who gives no fucks. You don’t see reality – unfriended. You hate on people/races/gender identity what have you – unfriended. He’s very strict about it and vocal on how he feels and sees the world. I respect him and I know he believes 2 + 2 = 4. I’m not Robert, I still tolerate the ignorant, hateful, arrogantly incorrect… I still allow them to pollute my timeline… Part of it is curiosity, I want to know what crazy shit they’re thinking today.

But I don’t think it’s good for me. I’m not sure… it’s a gray area for me.

This was a long rant, I’m not sure I went anywhere with it. Right is right, wrong is wrong… it’s never been hard for me to tell the difference, I don’t know why it is for others.. or why what’s right has become something so wrong.

One thought on “Differences

  1. It would be nice to be able to say this is just a modern problem yet it is an age old problem.

    Having the courage of your convictions is admirable yet at times it can also be limiting as it locks the individual into just one sphere of thought and rejects any opposing views. Reference your friend Robert.

    He has effectively silenced debate as anyone opposing his position is removed. Debate works to open minds to new ideas and to allow for understanding between people of opposing views to hopefully find common ground, and at the least be able to agree to disagree.

    With my mates we settle opposing points of view by betting with Chupa Chups on whatever subject it is. Because it is a bet we all have to have an argument supporting our stance and then there is the fun of poking shit at each other over the course of the bet. Then there is the winner and loser.

    For example I placed a 4 Chup Chup bet in October 2018 that Australia would be in a recession by May 2020. Turns out I cleaned up with that one but lost big time on the American election as I freely admit all I did was go against the opinions of the media. I lost that bet as my simple approach was flawed.

    Win some, lose some.

    It’s so much better than just eradicating someone because they don’t agree with you.

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